Tuesday, March 19, 2013

In a box....on the truck!

“Mom, where is my ____________?”  is a question I have heard numerous times in the last few months from the children.  “Mary, where is ____________?”  is a question I have heard several times from my handsome husband guy.  “Now where did I put __________?”  is a question I have asked myself here of late.  The answer to 95% of those questions is the same, “In a box…..on the truck.”  In fact, anymore they just join me as I answer, “In a box, on the truck!” J Those missing items are on the big moving truck loaded up Tuesday, January 15 of this year in Newburgh.  The same truck that is now stored somewhere here in the local area that we are unable to get into until unloading day sometime in the future.  Items I thought we would be able to do without since we were going to be moving into a new house at the end of February.   If only I had known our original plan wasn’t going to turn out as we thought, I would have most definitely packed a few more things for the little red cabin. 
The boxes...on the truck.
The little red cabin has somehow shrunk these last few weeks.  Door knobs have been falling off doors, the drain under the kitchen sink separated this past week and I found myself standing in a huge puddle of dirty dishwater I had just dumped down the drain, and the one bathroom has now become more difficult to share.   It’s getting harder to be positive about camping.  The little ones are bickering more.  While it is tempting to open up the backdoor and let them out in the gorgeous back yard here…I learned the hard way that was not such a good idea.  So I won’t be repeating that mistake lest we have the return of the mud monsters!

I was feeling so proud of myself.  That alone should have been a red flag, but it wasn’t.  They were bickering and fussing and it was such a nice day, so I bundled them up and sent them O – U – T, out!  I sat down to get some lesson planning and other administrative things done at the computer without interruption.  Ahhh!  All was quiet and I was making tremendous headway when all of a sudden the backdoor flies open, Sam thunders through the kitchen, continues on through the entry way, and into the living area on the main floor just as proud as can be.  His pink cheeks were glowing and his brown eyes snapping.  He was animated and full of the energy only a 4 year old can contain.  He stops right in front of me, holds up one leg, and says, “MOM, LOOK AT THIS!”  I was horrified.  From this point on, it was all in slow motion.
Note to self:  Self, this beautiful backyard gets muddy after the snow melts.
The bottom of his shoe was entirely caked with at least no less than 1/2 inch of mud.  He was like some mud monster you would see on Scooby Doo.  There was mud everywhere!  Mud on his face, coat, pants, and his shoes were hard to see beneath the filth.  There were globs of mud falling off his shoe as he stood there with it in midair.  Then in an instant we went back to real time, and I can now see past him.  I see the trail of muddy footprints from the back door to where he was now standing.  Clumps of mud in between those prints dotted here and there.  It was at this point something inside me snapped.  Sam was instructed in a not so calm and patient voice to return outside to the beauty of the day, and I had a little change of plans.  Instead of getting some work done at the computer, I got to clean up a bunch of mud inside the house, off the back porch, steps, patio, and three muddy children (shoes, muddy pants, and muddy coats).  That was perhaps the most stupid idea I’ve ever had because I didn’t think it through.  While yes, it was beautiful outside, the newly melted snow had made the yard very squishy. 
 
I did bring two boxes of toys for the little ones back from Newburgh to the rental house and immediately we opened one up.  I forgot about the other one.  I know that sounds silly, but there are still items we have here packed in boxes with lids open against the walls.  It is primitive I know, but we’re camping, remember?!  So it kind of blended in with the others.   I discovered this box not so long ago and we had a grand time opening it!  You’d have thought it was Christmas!  WOW!  Talk about peace and harmony and excited voices about what was inside new to play with.  I didn’t know Legos were such a big deal.  Never before had they been so enthusiastic about them in Newburgh.  Absence does make the heart grow fonder I guess.  The Legos hadn’t changed, but their attitudes about them had.   They were grateful.  I have a feeling it will be sensory overload once we unload the boxes on the big truck. 
 
We’re one week away from the one year mark of when it became very clear to us that moving to Illinois was most likely going to happen.  It marks the time when we began the process of preparing to put our home in Newburgh on the market.  A time when I began putting items in boxes for the first time, and storing them in the yard barn or garage.  I can’t believe it.  It’s been a very interesting year.   It’s been a year where we’ve had to rely on God like never before, and trust His plan for our family.
And the boxing began.
If I were to sum up this year in one word, it would be Simple.  We’ve learned about simplifying our life and getting back to basics, the core of what is needed instead of wanted.  We’ve discovered those things we once thought were needs are really wants and are appreciating those things now that we have gone without.  Things like having enough bathroom space to store your toiletries, hang your towels, and even just turn around.  Things like more than one bathroom, dishwashers, carpet, cabinet space, pantries, dressers, and an attached two car garage.  I’m even grateful for their toys and books.  You know, all the ones I used to get frustrated about cleaning up at the end of the day!   We’ve also learned to appreciate one another.  We’ve learned we are so incredibly blessed and don’t deserve all we’ve been gifted by our great and awesome God.  Please understand, I’m eagerly looking forward to the day the big truck comes and is unloaded, yet I’m even more grateful for the lessons we’ve learned this year.  Fortunately for us, those are things that will always be with us in our hearts and minds, and not packed in a box….on the truck! 
Shoe storage converted to toiletry storage.
50 gallon gray storage tote converted to dresser in background.
Camping at the Cabin.

 

Thursday, February 14, 2013

A Forever Kind of Love

For the past several weeks we have been challenged at RCC to live a lifestyle of worship all day, every day.  This last Sunday during services I was a witness to something truly beautiful.  It is an image I hope my mind will not soon forget and a living testimony to me as a parent of the role I have in teaching my children about worship.  It is a role that needs to be lived out instead of talked about or debated about.

Several weeks ago some new friends of ours from RCC returned home from China with twin two year old little girls.  They are absolutely precious!  It has been so fun to read about their journey on their family blog.  I was so touched by their story and the realization that this family was giving these precious girls a new life and so many wonderful opportunities.  More importantly though, these girls now had a forever home and would experience a forever kind of love.

 This past Sunday during the musical part of the service, I was watching the lyrics from the back row and it was such a sweet time.  People were focused and at times they would lift a hand in worship.  Then I saw it….the father of the twins raised his right hand in praise while holding one of the twins with his left hand.  The next thing I knew her little hand went up as high as it could and from my vantage point with the lights dimmed, all I could see was a silhouette of the back of their heads and their hands raised in praise and worship.  It touched me. 

These girls may have eventually been adopted and given a forever home, but our friends were doing so much more than that.  They were giving them a forever kind of love, an eternal love that can only come from Jesus.  Because of their choice to open up their hearts and home to love these orphans, these girls can know Jesus Christ and have an opportunity to have a relationship with him someday.  Already they are being taught about his love and how to worship Him in spirit and in truth because our friends aren’t just telling them about Jesus, they are living out being Jesus and how to worship.  Amazing.

I was challenged in that moment to go and do likewise with my own children.  I was challenged to live out my worship in the small details of my day, every moment of everyday.  I want my children to not only be loved, but to experience that forever kind of love that can only come from a relationship with Jesus Christ.  That is a love worth celebrating.  Happy Valentines Day!

Friday, January 25, 2013

Bittersweet

It’s been a fast and furious few weeks with signing papers, packing boxes, loading boxes, and house inspections on both sides of the process of selling/buying a home.  It has been a time of tying up loose ends and looking ahead.  Understandably, it’s been a bittersweet and an exhausting time as well.  The new year has brought us a mixture of gratitude and reflection mixed in with a time of hope and wonder as we continue on our journey.

So great to pull into the drive the Friday before "Pack up the House Day" and see SOLD!
We were overwhelmed with help in packing up our home in Newburgh.  I wasn’t sure what to expect, but tried to have the boxes, tape, and markers ready to go the night before.  The packing crew on the Saturday we packed was AWESOME!!!  They began showing up one by one and when one would need to go, another person would arrive.  I was going to be happy if the downstairs was completed that day, and instead they did it all in a four hour time span.  It was far beyond what I had hoped.  Because we were living in the house while we packed there were still some things left to pack up, but only a closet and the bathroom we were using.  When they left I wept tears of gratitude and thankfulness.  Bittersweet.


Part of the packing crew:  Patti, Kim, and Donna!  THANK YOU!!!
Camping in the Newburgh house.
One of the last things I packed was our family pictures.  I love pictures as you can tell from my blog.  I think it adds something words can’t capture.  I found myself not packing them up.  Instead I was going through them and taking a trip down memory lane and posting a few on Facebook.  It was very fun!  I found my baby book, grade school report cards, senior pictures, prom pictures, and pictures of Neil and Maddie as babies that I hadn’t seen in a long time.  I found pictures of myself as young as two years old with my grandmothers, one of which is now with Jesus.  I found pictures from past Christmases and pictures of our honeymoon.  I found pictures when we were thin and Brad had facial hair. Then I found pictures of when we built the O’Hunter House and a piece of paper that listed the steps in the building process with handwritten dates on the side of when they were completed.  I smiled, I laughed, and I shed some tears.   Bittersweet.

 
 
Loading day was just like packing the house up day.  We weren’t sure exactly how many would turn out and again, God provided more than enough.  He always does and He always will.  Why I stew and fret I have yet to figure out.  I’m so glad He is patient with me.  As I’ve shared before, many hands make light work…even cold ones.  About an hour into the loading, the temperature dropped.  No one complained.  With red checks, red noses, and frozen toes they continued to load furniture and boxes in the trailer.  Four hours later, the trailer could hold no more and our friends departed.  There is something about seeing all your earthly possessions in one place, loaded up in boxes.  Loading day was emotional and difficult.  The realization we may not see some of these sweet, sweet people this side of eternity again rushed over me.  Bittersweet. 

The trailer arrived by 10 a.m.  Little did we know it would be full six hours later.
The hands and feet of Jesus to the Ferris family.  Thank you friends!
The ramp was the last thing they could fit on the trailer.  Done.
The most difficult part of the good-bye process in Newburgh though hands down was Thursday.  It was the last day we spent in the house.  We loaded up a UHAUL with the items that wouldn’t fit on the big trailer, loaded up the Explorer on the trailer, loaded up the van and the car topper, and finished cleaning the house.  As I cleaned each room Wednesday and Thursday, I prayed for the new occupants for joy, laughter, good health, and wonderful memories.  I prayed Jesus would be their Lord and Savior and change their lives. Then it was time to do one final walk through.  Now the house was completely empty of stuff but so full of other things.  As I was going through one last time, the sounds of laughter from the children still echoed off the walls.  Cries of babies just brought home from the hospital sounded in my mind.  Visions of Neil and Madeline running up the stairs laughing as they made their way to their rooms on move in day played in my mind.  Memories of family celebrations - anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, good report cards, milestones of riding bikes, crawling, walking, and baptisms flooded over me.  Dinner time laughter echoed in the empty kitchen.  Bedtime prayers softly spoken from a child’s heart whispered out from the walls of empty bedrooms.  Giggles, tears, and so much more surrounded me, and their sounds seemed amplified in the emptiness.  This was the last time we’d ever be in those walls, and while I was glad to take the memories with me, the time had come to leave.  It was time to say good-bye to an old friend.  Bittersweet.

Good-bye!
Paper signing day to sell our O’Hunter house was a good day.  The new family was precious.  The father is a minister!!!  I had a smile on my face knowing that the house was in good hands with people who loved Jesus and would take care of it.  So good to know those walls will be filled with Jesus’s love, laughter, and hope again very quickly!  It was a joy after all the papers were signed to join hands and pray together with them and our realtors.  We pulled out of Newburgh afterwards exhausted but full of hope and wonder and what God had in store for us.  During our time in Newburgh, an offer we made on a house in Springfield had been accepted.   The next step was to wait for an inspection report on this new house.  Sweet.

Pulling out and heading back to Illinois
The new house was incredible and looked great!  It was built for entertaining and we eagerly looked forward to a projected move in date of late February.   Needless to say we were thrilled and VERY excited!  Inspection day was Wednesday of this week, but the findings were not positive.  Over 20 major problems were identified.  These items were things one wouldn’t be able to see by just walking through the house.  We had been continuing to pray about the inspection and asking God to open the door if that is where He wanted us or to shut the door if not.  We both had a peace that God had shut a door and had protected us.  Bittersweet.

We were very disappointed, all six of us.  I think I was the most disappointed of all – the kitchen was INCREDIBLE (stainless steel appliances, double oven, cook top, custom cabinets, quartz counters, ceramic tile flooring…a cook’s delight!).  I had to seek out some chocolate cake therapy along with a glass of blackberry lemonade from Smokey Bones yesterday after the “official” report was e-mailed to us.   Today I was amused at how sad I was about losing something that wasn’t even mine to begin with, but in my mind I had moved us all in and had planned out some groups of people to have over.  The children had this hilarious menu planned to help me “try out” the new kitchen our first week in the house.  We had begun to make plans and mentally get settled and now that was not to be a reality.  I was reminded of Proverbs 16:9, “We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.” (New Living Translation)   Bittersweet. 

Chocolate Cake Therapy
God has something different planned for the Ferris family, something better for us somewhere out there in our future.  The difficult part is waiting to see what that is.  We appreciate your prayers for us and once again ask you continue to go before God on our behalf to show us where we need to live and make the path clear to us.  We need wisdom.  Please pray for God to open the right doors and close the wrong ones.    While we wait, we will continue to “camp” in our little red cabin and hold onto the thought that the best is still yet to come and that is not a bitter thing…it is very, very sweet!









Sunday, January 6, 2013

Our Christmas Eve Present

A simple Christmas meant borrowing a 4 foot tree and using the children's handmade projects from church to decorate.  I think it turned out just fine!
The best present this year however, wasn't under this tree!!!
Holidays were special events in my house growing up, and Christmas was perhaps my favorite.   The house was always decorated so nice.  The large picture window in the parsonage growing up was the perfect place for the Christmas tree.  Underneath that tree was a Christmas village complete with its own train line.  Over the years the village has grown into this huge metropolitan area.  The train line has grown, too and actually has several working trains.  The nativity scene in the country is a cherished corner of the city, but my favorite is my dad’s little musical church.  It was one of the last gifts my dad received from his own father before he died.  It lights up and plays Silent Night.  On Christmas Eve each year we’d gather around the tree and read the Christmas story from Luke 2.  Dad would wind the church and it was such a neat time to think about God’s great gift to us.  We’d close the day in prayer.  Each Christmas morning my dad would again wind up the church, and we would know we could come out of our rooms to see what wonderful surprises awaited us under the tree.   The day would continue with travelling to grandparents’ homes and eating a huge meal followed by a few more gifts.  It was a magical, wonderful day celebrating Jesus’ birthday!

Christmas Eve reading of the Christmas Story in Luke 2 and singing Christmas carols while Neil played his guitar.
Brad and I have tried to make Christmas a special time for our children as well—focusing on the birthday of Jesus.  We also enjoy other Christmas traditions from each of our own backgrounds blending them together and sprinkling in a few things of our own.  A birthday party for Jesus has been a new tradition we’ve tried to have each year with cupcakes.  We also attend Christmas Eve services as a family, something Brad grew up doing.  Before bed we read from Luke chapter two around the Christmas tree and pray as a family just like I did growing up as a little girl.  Brad and his brother always slept in sleeping bags in the same room on Christmas Eve, and for several years growing up our entire family would camp out in my brothers' room.  My dad would fill one whole wall bed to bed and move beds around.  I couldn't find the picture for this blog, but someday I hope to post that one!  Twenty years ago during Christmas we were engaged.  Christmas is a special time for me.  It is still a magical, wonderful day celebrating Jesus’ birthday!

Silent Night
 
God did something so wonderful for us this past Christmas Eve.  He gave us a gift and answered so many prayers prayed for us.  I can now smile at His timing.  He does love to give good gifts to His children!  This year we went to Christmas Eve services.  We chose the early service and it was standing room only….literally.  It was packed out.  Extra chairs in the back were set up.  Extra chairs on the sides of the seating sections were set up.  I was going to be content standing in the doorway singing and sitting in the foyer in the couches listening to this really handsome new preacher at RCC speak!  I’ll credit the seating crew….they found us five seats all in a row….in the second to the front row!  Now, for those who know me best, you know how uncomfortable I was with that!  I’m a preacher’s kid, and I sit in the back row or the balcony in my little “crow’s nest”.  I was thankful the children were well behaved even after my meager supply of Life Savers ran out.  The service was nice and the handsome preacher did a fine job.

Sarah read from Luke 2 this year.  She did a great job!
 
 After the last song I quickly checked the time on my phone and put it back in my purse.  We gathered our coats and wrapped up as the night was very cold.  We loaded up in the van and returned to our little red cabin and took our time getting shoes and coats put away.  We changed into comfy clothes and Maddie was getting the puppies settled.   The last task before getting dinner ready was to get my phone out of my purse before putting it away.  As I pulled it out, I noticed I had missed a call and had a message from Jenna, our realtor.   So I retrieved my message and hear, “We have an offer….”   I’m not sure what the rest of the message said at that point because all I could hear was “We have an offer…”!  I wanted so badly to call Brad, but he was participating in the second Christmas Eve service.  Here I had this GREAT news and couldn’t tell anyone!  What a gift God gave us Christmas Eve!

Notice the realty sign - Sale Pending!!!!  Yeah God!!!!
Thank you to all who have been praying for us!  However, we can’t stop yet.  There is still the inspection to get through.  They were not able to get up on our roof January 3rd because the roof was 75% covered with snow.  So in the next five days they will try again.  If all goes well we close on the house in Newburgh January 18.  When God moves, sometimes He moves swiftly!  Please keep praying this final inspection goes well so we can officially close the deal on our home in Newburgh!   What a gift!  What a God! 
This year they camped out up in the "loft" with Neil!  They slept in until 8 a.m.!  Another wonderful gift :)!

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Expectations

1 At that time the Roman emperor, Augustus, decreed that a census should be taken throughout the Roman Empire. 2 (This was the first census taken when Quirinius was governor of Syria.) 3 All returned to their own towns to register for this census. 4 And because Joseph was a descendant of King David, he had to go to Bethlehem in Judea, David's ancient home. He traveled there from the village of Nazareth in Galilee. 5 He took with him Mary, his fiancée, who was obviously pregnant by this time. 6 And while they were there, the time came for her baby to be born. 7 She gave birth to her first child, a son. She wrapped him snugly in strips of cloth and laid him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the village inn. 

Luke 2:1-7
           Expectations can be tricky things.  Sometimes we base our plans on those strong beliefs that something will happen or someone will behave in a certain way in the future.  When those expectations are unmet we tend to become frustrated, disappointed, angry or even bitter.  In this blog today I’d like to finish our initial journey from Newburgh to Illinois and close with something Brad reminded RCC about just a week later from the platform, and both deal with expectations.  I hope it will encourage and challenge you as much as it did me and help you reflect on our Savior, the greatest gift ever given.

        Saturday, December 1, we woke up at the Hampton Inn in Evansville and I was packing up our rooms while Brad got the children breakfast downstairs.  In a very short time he returns to the room and informs me his cell phone was stolen at breakfast.  This was not exactly a good start to the day and was not anything we expected.  Nonetheless, it happened.  The search was on.  We asked others in the breakfast area if they had seen it.  We asked the front desk staff if someone had turned it in.  Brad deactivated the phone, and others helped join in the search.  Eventually, about 30 minutes later, the phone was found near the elevators.  We think the person who took it just decided it wasn’t worth the trouble.  Fortunately, we found the phone.  Unfortunately, we were now about an hour behind schedule.  We had a group from RCC meeting us at 1 p.m. to help us unload, and we knew up front we weren’t going to make it in time.  Those unmet expectations of a smooth morning and being in Illinois on time led to some frustration.

 The journey to Illinois itself went very smooth, and with only a few pit stops we made fairly good time.  We couldn’t have asked for better weather, sunny and warm.  As we pulled onto the street where our little red cabin is located, we were greeted with a lovely sight - cars lined the street on both sides, people standing around eating lunch and waiting for us.  The first trailer was already unloaded, and Brad let someone back the other one in the drive.  We were welcomed warmly.  A delicious, hot spaghetti dinner with fruit and salad greeted us.  While we ate, they unloaded the trailer.  Helping hands soon had the beds put together, kitchen items unpacked, kitchen table assembled and the washer and dryer well on their way to being operational.  It is so true many hands make light work.  It was very overwhelming to see the smiling faces and hear the kind words.  New neighbors introduced themselves, and a few of the ladies had even drawn me a map of the houses on both sides of the street complete with names of their family members and phone numbers in case we had questions or needed anything.  It was such a wonderful way to start life together as a family in Illinois!
           So many good things were going on outside, but internally I was struggling with some unmet expectations.  You see, once we walked in the house it was clear that the house had not been cleaned up as we had anticipated.  I was extremely frustrated and disappointed.  When we walked through it a few weeks earlier, we had asked for it to be cleaned before we arrived.  I had fully expected it to be done.  Those unmet expectations really knocked the wind out of me that day.  The house was filthy.   It smelled.  One of the previous owners must have been a smoker, and so the air had that aroma even with the windows open.  There was a dead cricket in the sink and grime built up on the stove, counters, sink, and cabinets in the kitchen.  The ceiling fan and light fixtures had dirt hanging from them.  There was dirt everywhere, and the bathroom had not been touched.  There were light bulbs burnt out throughout the house, and the smoke detectors did not have batteries.  In my mind the house was not prepared for us.  It was completely unacceptable.

Brad’s parents had tried to help get things set right before the moving crew arrived but there just wasn’t enough time.  The furnace guy had come to check the furnace for us, and then people from RCC began to arrive to help unload and get us settled.  The only thing I could do was remember we were “camping” in our little red cabin.  I had a choice.  Choice A was to focus on the unmet expectations.  Choice B was to get busy and start cleaning up our camp site.  Resolutely I chose B, because to focus on the filth and dirt might have meant I missed out on something even better that God had in store for me. 
            So when our new friends left, we got busy.  Brad replaced light bulbs and smoke detectors and that brightened things up a bit.  We discovered a mixture of ammonia + white vinegar + baking soda will do wonders on removing smoke odors from walls.  The floors were scrubbed with a Murphy’s Oil mixture and soon those were much improved as well.  The living area floor was peppered with staples from where it had been carpeted at one time.  Here and there some were sticking straight up – ouch!  In the scrubbing process those sticking up were removed.  Now feet, big and little, are safe!  The bathroom and kitchen both cleaned up well with disinfectants and elbow grease.  I will also note that I am so very, very grateful for the person who invented Fabreze!

Finally, after a few days, our little cabin was tidy.  The cabin transformed from this dirty, stinky, unacceptable place into a cozy place for us to reconnect as a family.  It has been such a blessing.  We are so very grateful for how God has used this place to fulfill a need for our family!  Had my focus stayed on the filth and dirt and unmet expectations, then I would be missing out right now on something better.  I am reminded once again that God uses the unexpected to do some pretty amazing things!
 
            I find it no coincidence that the next Sunday in worship the sermon touched upon unmet expectations!  God is always working and moving in our lives, using the everyday things to bring His truths to light!  Brad taught from Luke 2, a traditional Christmas text, however, he began to lay out some of the historical background about the text.  Surprisingly, instead of jumping right in to the baby in the manger, he began to paint a picture of the current political and cultural conditions that surrounded the birth of Christ.  He brought to our attention God’s hand working and moving even when the world couldn’t see or hear Him. He also challenged us to see beyond the noise, busyness, and hustle and bustle of Christmas today.  He challenged us to really notice Christ and what God did for us so many years ago.  We were reminded that the King of Kings was born in a filthy, dirty, smelly, damp, noisy, and unkingly place instead of the neat, tidy pictures we have in our minds or under our trees in the pretty nativity scenes.

Mary had no sterile room, no pain medications, no comfy bed, and no monitors.  She had no nurse call button, fluffy pillow, or warm blankets from the warmer.  There was no fully staffed medical team complete with NICU in case there were complications.  The manger was most likely carved from stone and was a cold, dirty, germ filled feeding trough with bits of animal feed still in it.  Was there even any clean hay in the barn?  Jesus didn’t have a nice warm sleeper complete with cute little hat or sleep sack to be clothed in or a portable crib stocked with diapers, wipes, A and D ointment, pacifiers, or extra blankets and onesies; he had strips of cloth.  The stable that night was not prepared for the birth of our Lord and Savior, the King of kings.   It was entirely unacceptable.  Yet that is where God chose to have His Son born.  It is in that dirty, damp place that the prophesies were fulfilled and God’s plan prevailed.   

 
On that night so long ago, while so many were gathered in one place for the census, the Savior was born.  Because they were expecting an earthly king to arrive and establish a new kingdom to free them from the Roman Empire, the people missed out on the Messiah’s arrival!  What Messiah would be born in a dirty stable?  His birth almost entirely went unnoticed.  Throughout Jesus’s entire lifetime people misunderstood who He was and what He was about.  I’m so grateful that those expectations were unmet because they led to something better than we could have ever imagined, a Savior!  God used the unexpected to do something amazing!  Jesus came to earth as a baby to save us and establish an eternal, everlasting kingdom that will never wear out or be overthrown. 
As we head into this Christmas, stop and reflect on the baby born in the stable.  Don’t let your busy schedules and unmet expectations of who He is cause you to miss the bigger picture.  Take some time to reflect and notice our King and Savior lying in a dirty, smelly place so that one day He would be able to cleanse our dirty, smelly, lives of sin.  Notice who God chose to use to fulfill his plan – a young girl, a carpenter, an inn keeper, shepherds….ordinary people like you and me and ordinary things like a census.  Scripture not only records his first coming, but promises He will be returning.  We have a job to do!  We need to spread the word concerning Him just like the shepherds did.  Rejoice in the gift God has given you, rest in the love He has lavished on you, and share this free gift with others! 
Merry Christmas!

Saturday, December 15, 2012

"I tell you, life doesn’t get any better than this!"

     I am writing tonight from the school area of our little red cabin.  We have been here two weeks now and are settling into a new routine.   Now that things are more settled I can begin to share some of the other things that happened on our journey to Illinois.  Today I am going to tell you about our last night in Newburgh.

    Friday, November 30, a group of dear friends came over to our house and helped us load up two trailers.  In a 2 ½ hour time span they had not only loaded the trailers but also helped us clean and stage the house for our open house and future showings.  It was amazing what they did in that short time.  When they left we finished up a few things and then had lunch.  Afterwards I finished cleaning the bathrooms really good and tying up loose ends at the house while Brad was running last minute errands he had to do in Newburgh at the bank and utility offices.
     By six p.m. we were exhausted.  Finally, it was time to load up the van and say good-bye to the house until it sells and head to the hotel.   As I walked through each room I remembered so many memories from the last 13 years.  What a blessing that home has been for us!  Pulling out was difficult but also at the same time kind of a relief.  It marked the end to the separation of our family and that was comforting.  We spent our last night in town at the Hampton Inn.  I find that ironic since our first night in Evansville/Newburgh was in the same hotel – Brad, myself, and a cute little 2 year old boy.  This time we had to have two rooms and were leaving with four children and two dogs.
     I took the three younger children to the pool and let them swim and burn off some energy.  They had spent the day sitting on our couches in the house while we loaded and cleaned and got things ready to go.  After about an hour, three happy and wet children accompanied me back up to the adjoining hotel rooms where Neil and Brad had returned from yet a few more errands and some scrumptious Chick- fil-a for dinner.  So we camped out in one room and ate our dinner together.  While we were finishing Sarah, the seven-year-old, sat back on the bed and let out this big sigh and announces very emphatically and contentedly, “I tell you, life doesn’t get any better than this!” 
      I have to be honest and say it took me completely off guard and my first thought was, “Seriously?”  Then it hit me.  I had to look at things from her perspective.  For the first time since June we were together as a family again.  We got to go stay at a hotel which is one of my children’s most favorite things to do.  They got to go swimming which also makes the top five list, and eat Chick- fil- a!  What more could we really want or need…except maybe one of those yummy Chick-fil-a brownies?! J She was right.  We were reunited and somehow all the other stuff just didn’t matter.  Perspective is an interesting thing and I’m so glad for Sarah’s that night.  It taught me a lot about gratitude and gratefulness.  It also brought a smile to my face and made me chuckle.  No wonder Jesus loved the little children so! 

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Little Red Cabin in Southern View


Well, we made it to Illinois and the rental house!  It is a 2 bedroom /1 bath home in Southern View.  It is a cute little red house and has a terrific backyard.  There is a loft area where Neil can hang out and a basement that houses our washer/dryer and a very interesting conversation piece.  We found out from neighbors that a “Catholic family” with six children had lived here at one time so they renovated part of the basement into a second larger kitchen.  The upstairs kitchen is very small so I can see why they did that, but at the edge of that basement kitchen is this interesting conversation piece.  For that reason, we are using the upstairs kitchen.  I just can’t picture myself cooking down there and knowing that this fixture is at the end of the counter!  We have told the children that we are camping and so the little red house in Southern View is affectionately known as our cabin.  It reminds me of a cabin to be honest.  So in future posts if I say cabin….you’ll know what I mean.

If you look directly to the left of the kitchen sink, I think you will see our "conversation piece" in the basement!
This has to be one of the most unusal household features I have ever seen in all our house hunting!

As our journey to Illinois has continued to progress more interesting things have happened, and I will share those in time.  For today however, I will just let you see where we are for now and give everyone an update on the Ferris family.
First and most importantly, the six of us are under one roof again, and I can’t even begin to share how good that is!!  Brad had shared with us that one of the things he had missed most these past months was dinner together around the table.  One of the first nights in the cabin our dinner conversation turned silly and everyone was in tears laughing.  It’s not surprising that Brad was the instigator in that dinner time event.  There is something about watching your husband transform back into a kid that is charming and makes you kind of fall in love with him even more.  His presence back into our daily routine and lives has brought about peace for me in knowing I’m not a single parent and also security for the children.  Sam and Sarah are still having some separation anxiety, and they get upset when he leaves the house because they think he is leaving for a long period of time.  Brad and I both have to reassure them he is just going to the office and he will be back later in the day for lunch or for dinner.   With time together again and prayer I know this will get easier.

Upstairs kitchen and eating area.  No interesting conversation piece here :)!
Secondly, we have enjoyed getting to know our new church family at RCC.  We have met so many kind and wonderful people.  God’s kingdom is so big and encompasses so many people and personalities.  I love the fact that I have even more brothers and sisters in Christ all over the world and someday will get to meet them as well.  Until then, God has planted us here to serve and minister and I eagerly look forward to doing just that.  For now, I am visiting Sunday School classes and Brad and I are looking forward to participating in a small group.  The children have been able to go to their Wednesday night classes and Sunday morning programming.  While it has been different for them, they seem to be enjoying their new teachers and making some new friends.

We were able to get internet and Wi-Fi up and running so we were able to get school back underway again.  That alone was a big blessing and allowed us to get back into a routine again.  There is something very comforting about the routine of daily life.  We have been able to get a library card and visited the library yesterday which was a big thing for Maddie, Sarah, and Samuel.  They were able to check out books and even found some of their favorites from back in Newburgh.  Sam said he liked this library and they asked when we were going to go back! 
The backyard is very large.  The few warm days we had the children enjoyed playing outside.
It will be a great place for the kids to enjoy snow if we get some!
The rental house is very different from what we are accustomed to and it has taken some time to adjust to some of the changes, but God has used this experience already to teach all of us some very important lessons.

1.        Simplified Life:  Because the house is small we were only able to bring the necessities.  Remember we are going from a 4 bedroom/2.5 bath home to a 2 bedroom/1 bath home.  Beds, washer/dryer, refrigerator, kitchen table, 1 love seat, school, clothes, and bare essentials for kitchen were all that we brought with us.   Our dressers are 50 gallon grey Rubbermaid tubs.  I went to “clean” house on Saturday and it took about 30 minutes….instead of three bathrooms to do I had one, etc.  Learning to live with less is not a bad thing.  It makes you realize how much you really need vs. what you want or would prefer to have!

2.       Strengthening family relationships:  In a 2500 square foot home we had room to spread out and not really see one another if we didn’t want to (please don’t take that the wrong way).  We are bumping into one another here and the children, especially, have been forced to be together more and get along.  While that hasn’t always made for quiet, peaceful moments, it is teaching us about how to truly love one another (love is patient, love is kind, it is not rude or self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no records of wrong).

3.       Being joyful while waiting on the Lord:  While we still don’t understand what God is doing, we are learning to trust Him and our faith is being strengthened.  We are learning lessons we never could have had our house sold quickly.  No matter our circumstances we are, as Christians, to have joy.  We are learning about having a joyful attitude while we wait.   Some days I do well and have such a peace and then other days I struggle, don’t understand why we have to wait, get frustrated, and have a Mary moment.  Waiting is difficult but we have been encouraged by so many of you who have been where we are.  You have told us it is just temporary and how God used your time of waiting to do something bigger.  We are encouraged by your prayers on our behalf and are so humbled and grateful for each one.

2839 O'Hunter Avenue - Our Newbugh house. 
Please keep praying it will sell!
Lastly, I just want to ask that you continue to pray for us as we settle in together under one roof and for our house in Newburgh to sell.  God’s timing is perfect.  Until then, we’ll be keeping in touch with you all from our little red cabin in Southern View!